It's true that Sherlock has some narcissistic personality traits. They've gotten better over the years though and she doesn't think he's a true narcissist, not in the way her mother is. Not to say she hasn't explored her relationship with Sherlock in therapy sessions - her therapist worried that her interest in him as an unhealthy mirror of her mother in the way that abused children often end up in abusive relationships as adults.
She is certain that her previous willingness to constantly bend to his whims was a direct output of being raised by a narcissistic parent. But therapy has helped her with that. Learning to say no and to stand up for herself and to not feel guilty over things has been a huge step in escaping her mother and clearly it has paid off in her other relationships as well.
"That's very sweet," she says of his offer to share his mum. And it really is. "It sounds like we'll get on quite well."
She smiles but thinks about how her mum hated Molly's choice to go into pathology. Being a doctor would have been fine (not her mum's first choice, but at least an important job), but cutting open dead people was not respectable or fit for a daughter of hers.
Giving his hand a squeeze back, she banishes thoughts of her mother and goes back to her crepes. In spite of their conversation, she's still hungry. And it's still early in the year and in this relationship, but the idea of a Holmes family Christmas brightens her mood as well.
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Date: 2017-03-09 10:02 pm (UTC)She is certain that her previous willingness to constantly bend to his whims was a direct output of being raised by a narcissistic parent. But therapy has helped her with that. Learning to say no and to stand up for herself and to not feel guilty over things has been a huge step in escaping her mother and clearly it has paid off in her other relationships as well.
"That's very sweet," she says of his offer to share his mum. And it really is. "It sounds like we'll get on quite well."
She smiles but thinks about how her mum hated Molly's choice to go into pathology. Being a doctor would have been fine (not her mum's first choice, but at least an important job), but cutting open dead people was not respectable or fit for a daughter of hers.
Giving his hand a squeeze back, she banishes thoughts of her mother and goes back to her crepes. In spite of their conversation, she's still hungry. And it's still early in the year and in this relationship, but the idea of a Holmes family Christmas brightens her mood as well.